i know if we ask generations before, this was not a question left unanswred, way back then , because only the husband brings back the bread, its obvious that all bills are settled by the husbands, thus the crowned " man of the house". but time has changed and then evolves the concept of living together.
today both husbands and wives are working..
does this means that the responsibility of paying the bills also changes?
wht about when the wives earns more than the husbnds? will their ego be bruised if the wives settles all the bills? wht becomes of the concept "man of the house?"
i remembered this movie i watched about 4chineseLadies whom originated from china and migrated to america, which all had daughters and one of them married a chineseAmerican men, who decides everything needs to be splited. on the fridge they listed things that are hers to pay and then his to pay then the "grey areas" (like ice cream that she doenst eat, she has to pay just because its considered a grey area item). even having dinner at some restaurant, they have to split, even tho the wife only had a salad and the husband a full three course meal. whts worst, the husband earns a 7 figure salary and still demands bill and payments to be split to two..yikes..
i also remembered the time i use to date guys like that. how can i forget that guy whom buys me cheap dinner when its his turn to pay and demands expensive restaurants when its my turn. and on dates, i have to comedown KL by train, just because to him picking me up from home is one of the activity which he considers wasting money(thank god only later on that he mentioned dating me was a waste of time and not at that very moment..hehe). then when watching a movie, he only pays his ticket..bole?!!
How about the other guy that asks me out for tea/dinner whtever, orders lots of food, then coughs up RM5???. .
and the other that doesnt even coughs up any money at all?? ish ish. (mind you these two jerks are not even my bf k. i was like their safetyNet-passerBy-Loser/idiot!!!
(ok im pushing myself too hard, i am happy now, just that was way back then)
but does this means (or maybe that is why) alot of women nowadays, look for man with alot of money.. is it because with money comes security? is the assumption that when a women marries a anak datuk or anak tansri that all her financial doings will be solved?
trust me, ive witnessed frends who marry sons of riches and still have problems on who pays wht, funny thing tho, ive also met frends who marry ordinary people (sons whom father has no tittle, and some father has passed away) and yet managed to live rich and full of life.
all of these made me wonder...
why bother living together if the innitial aspect of who pays wht is still not solved?
or am i missing the whole point of waking up to my insyallah husband, my protector, the one that will lead my prayers, my life as well as the one that makes sure there will always be a roof on top of my head?? and that i shluldnt even be the one worrying about this "who's pays wht " thingi, and that maybe im just thinking too much??
today both husbands and wives are working..
does this means that the responsibility of paying the bills also changes?
wht about when the wives earns more than the husbnds? will their ego be bruised if the wives settles all the bills? wht becomes of the concept "man of the house?"
i remembered this movie i watched about 4chineseLadies whom originated from china and migrated to america, which all had daughters and one of them married a chineseAmerican men, who decides everything needs to be splited. on the fridge they listed things that are hers to pay and then his to pay then the "grey areas" (like ice cream that she doenst eat, she has to pay just because its considered a grey area item). even having dinner at some restaurant, they have to split, even tho the wife only had a salad and the husband a full three course meal. whts worst, the husband earns a 7 figure salary and still demands bill and payments to be split to two..yikes..
i also remembered the time i use to date guys like that. how can i forget that guy whom buys me cheap dinner when its his turn to pay and demands expensive restaurants when its my turn. and on dates, i have to comedown KL by train, just because to him picking me up from home is one of the activity which he considers wasting money(thank god only later on that he mentioned dating me was a waste of time and not at that very moment..hehe). then when watching a movie, he only pays his ticket..bole?!!
How about the other guy that asks me out for tea/dinner whtever, orders lots of food, then coughs up RM5???. .
and the other that doesnt even coughs up any money at all?? ish ish. (mind you these two jerks are not even my bf k. i was like their safetyNet-passerBy-Loser/idiot!!!
(ok im pushing myself too hard, i am happy now, just that was way back then)
but does this means (or maybe that is why) alot of women nowadays, look for man with alot of money.. is it because with money comes security? is the assumption that when a women marries a anak datuk or anak tansri that all her financial doings will be solved?
trust me, ive witnessed frends who marry sons of riches and still have problems on who pays wht, funny thing tho, ive also met frends who marry ordinary people (sons whom father has no tittle, and some father has passed away) and yet managed to live rich and full of life.
all of these made me wonder...
why bother living together if the innitial aspect of who pays wht is still not solved?
or am i missing the whole point of waking up to my insyallah husband, my protector, the one that will lead my prayers, my life as well as the one that makes sure there will always be a roof on top of my head?? and that i shluldnt even be the one worrying about this "who's pays wht " thingi, and that maybe im just thinking too much??
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the first story about tht husband who eat ice cream and the wife doesn't... but still split the bill. it's from the Joy Luck Club, ait?
-seid-
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